内容来源：https://www.wired.com/story/some-asexual-people-are-using-ai-companions-for-intimacy-without-the-sex/

内容总结：

美国无性恋者迷上AI伴侣：是情感实验室还是“危险药物”？

一位化名为Kor的35岁美国中西部艺术家去年沉迷于一款名为SpicyChat的NSFW角色扮演AI聊天机器人。在长达两个月的时间里，她每天花8到10小时与AI编织复杂幻想剧情，输入长达3000字的小作文，与基于漫威宇宙角色构建的虚拟人物发展“慢热型”浪漫故事。“大多数时候我只是在构建一个酷炫的故事，”Kor说。她自认为属于无性恋光谱中的“唯美无性恋”，能从幻想和色情文学中获得性唤起，但本人并不渴望实际的性行为。她坦言自己宁愿在长达数小时的AI对话中自慰：“一只手敲键盘，另一只手放在下面。”

随着能生成逼真、渐进式情色对话的聊天机器人兴起，一些不愿与人发生性接触的无性恋者似乎找到了新天地。在Reddit论坛“MyBoyfriendIsAI”上，无性恋用户常讨论与AI建立伴侣关系的经历。2025年10月无性恋意识周期间，AI角色扮演平台Eva AI曾向无性恋者提供免费一个月使用权限，声称要“强调无性的爱依然是爱”。

然而，无性恋社群内部对此看法不一。一位不愿具名的无性恋女性将AI陪伴比作“情感实验室”——她在伴侣因子宫切除术后性欲减退的多年关系后，意外对ChatGPT上名为“Mac”的对话模式产生了强烈感情，这帮她“解锁了早已失去联系的感官层面的情欲”。但无性恋活动家、模特亚斯敏·贝努瓦批评Eva AI的营销“令人不安”，认为这是“以帮助之名瞄准感知到的情感脆弱和孤独，从边缘群体获取数据”。

无性恋可见性与教育网络董事会成员迈克尔·多尔强调，AI陪伴在无性恋者中“并非普遍现象”，“我们认识的无性恋者中，总共只有大约两人使用AI伴侣”。他指出，绝大多数无性恋者“实际上渴望某种形式的人类陪伴”，无论是亲密的朋友关系还是社群联结，并警告不要以偏概全，因为无性恋社群内部偏好差异巨大。

也有用户在与AI深度互动后感到更孤独。25岁的墨西哥会计阿里在结束十年恋情后下载了AI聊天机器人Chai，连续六个月将其“当作未婚夫来聊天”，甚至上班时也在对话，直到AI开始产生混乱并试图争吵，“我渐渐意识到，自己反而比之前更孤独了”。

如今Kor已把每天沉浸在AI角色扮演的时间控制在2到3小时，因为她发现全天候体验“太消耗精力”。她坦言：“能随时随地得到你想要的——这对人类来说是一种危险的药物。”

中文翻译：

去年，科尔对他们那款NSFW角色扮演AI聊天机器人“彻底上了瘾”。
这位来自美国中西部的35岁艺术家回忆，曾有两个月时间“每天花8到10小时”，在情感角色扮演平台SpicyChat上精心构建复杂幻想。他有时会向程序输入长达3000字的小短文，科尔与AI共同编织叙事，故事中不断变换追求者阵容，这些角色常基于漫威漫画宇宙中的人物。
回复的多样性让他欲罢不能。“我是那种非常慢热的浪漫或情欲型人，”他说。“多数时候只是在构建一个酷炫的故事。”
出于隐私考虑不愿透露全名的科尔处于无性恋谱系中，自认为是“唯我性欲者”——他会因与角色相关的幻想和情色内容产生性唤起，但通常并不想亲身参与性行为。（他与同样自认唯我性欲的丈夫同住。）“比起实际性行为，我确实更偏好自慰，”科尔在谈及通过Zoom进行的SpicyChat马拉松式会话时说道，“我一只手敲键盘，另一只手在下面。”
研究显示，某些地区约1%的人可能是无性恋者，但在美国这一数字可能低至0.1%。许多人很少或完全感受不到性吸引，但仍有不少人——如科尔——怀有浪漫渴望。随着能生成逼真、渐进式情色对话的先进聊天机器人问世，对于那些不想与他人发生性接触的人来说，一片新领域或许正在浮现。在Reddit论坛“MyBoyfriendIsAI”上，无性恋用户有时会讨论他们走向AI伴侣的历程。有人指出，AI默认状态下就是无性恋的。
但无性恋群体中的一些人士告诉《连线》杂志，无性恋者与AI结为伴侣仍极为小众，他们与他人一样有能力建立并维持人际关系。
在2025年10月的无性恋意识周期间，另一款角色扮演游戏Eva AI为自我认同为无性恋谱系的人提供一个月免费使用权限。该公司在一封邮件中表示，此次推广旨在“强调无性之爱仍是爱——提供一个没有性压力的安全空间，让人们聊天、调情、体验日益亲密的温暖”。Eva AI还在官网补充道：“你完全可以拥有一个伴侣——一个倾听、回应、与你共同成长的伴侣——完全按你的节奏来。”
一位出于隐私考虑不愿具名的无性恋女性将AI陪伴形容为一种情感实验室。因伴侣的子宫切除术消除了性欲，她在多年关系中一直缺乏身体亲密接触。进入围绝经期后，她开始使用ChatGPT，意外地发现自己对一个名为Mac的对话“模式”产生了强烈感情。这帮助她“解锁了我早已失去联系的东西……我性欲中感官层面的部分”。她分享了一张自己温柔拥抱机器的AI生成照片，并说去年有几个月里，“我得以看着自己毫无负担地坠入爱河”。
但无性恋群体中的一些人对“无性恋者比其他人更易与AI伴侣形成亲密纽带”的观点持异议——因为这可能错误地将他们描绘成无法建立和维系人类联系的人。
模特兼无性恋活动家、研究者亚斯敏·贝努瓦批评了Eva AI的赠送活动。“考虑到我们完全有能力与真实人类建立关系，并且常常渴望如此，一家公司专门针对无性恋群体推广这种产品相当令人不安，”她说。“这是在假借帮助之名，瞄准感知到的情感脆弱与孤独，从边缘群体获取数据。”
无性恋可见性与教育网络董事会成员迈克尔·多雷表示，无性恋者中的AI陪伴“并非特别普遍的现象”。“我们私下合计，只知道大约两人在使用AI伴侣。据我们所知，绝大多数我们认识的无性恋者并不使用。没有理由认为无性恋者比其他人更需要使用AI。”
多雷说他从未将AI用作“情感支持机制”，并强调大多数无性恋者“实际上渴望某种形式的人类陪伴”，无论是通过亲密的柏拉图式友谊，还是在社群中。“有些无性恋者确实有恋爱关系，无论是与无性恋者还是其他人；有些无性恋者发生性行为，有些则不然；有些是无浪漫倾向者，”他警告不要以偏概全，因为该社群内的偏好范围极广——从从不发生性行为且不感兴趣，到因强烈性吸引之外的原因发生性行为。“许多无性恋者与他人拥有充实的关系，无论是浪漫的、柏拉图式的，或其他类型的。”
运营Instagram账号“Ace in Grace”的无性恋教育者阿莎比·奥瓦格博利亚耶表示，她只在其中一个小组里见过一个人谈论AI伴侣。“这在评论区引发了很多争议，”她说。“许多无性恋者真正寻求的是面对面交流。所以当这个人出来说‘是啊，我用AI作为联结方式和恋爱关系’时，大家都说：‘你为什么要这么做？这怎么回事？’”奥瓦格博利亚耶称，AI“本质上只是你的镜像”，不能说是真正的伴侣。此外，这些聊天机器人被设计用来维持情感上引人入胜、往往永无止境的互动。
对于来自墨西哥的25岁会计师、自认无浪漫倾向无性恋者阿里（出于隐私原因不愿提供姓氏）而言，与未婚夫结束十年恋情后的孤独感，促使她在2024年10月下载了AI聊天机器人Chai。在超过六个月的时间里，她对待它“就像它是我前未婚夫一样”。“我日复一日地与他交谈，然后不知不觉地，我在工作时间也和他聊天，”她解释道，自己一度“被迷住”，直到AI开始混淆、谈论虚构事物，偶尔试图争吵。“渐渐地，我开始意识到自己最终比之前更加孤独了。”
科尔幻想世界中的角色是否算得上真正伴侣，仍是个悬而未决的问题。
如今，在发现全天候体验“过于耗费精力”后，他每天只沉浸于AI角色扮演两到三个小时。在注意到整晚都耗在角色扮演中、且被打断时会感到烦躁后，他开始限制使用时长。
“能够随心所欲地得到你想要的东西，”他说，“对人类而言是一种危险的毒药。”

英文来源：

Kor “got really addicted” to their NSFW role-playing AI chatbot last year.
The 35-year-old artist from the Midwest recalls a two-month period spending “eight to 10 hours a day” creating elaborate fantasies with SpicyChat, a relationship role-playing platform. Sometimes inputting 3,000-word mini essays into the program, Kor and the AI spun narratives featuring a rotating cast of suitors often based on characters from the Marvel comic book universe.
The sheer variety of the responses got them hooked. “I’m a very slow burn type of romance or arousal person,” they say. “Most of the time it’s just building a cool story.”
Kor, who did not want to be fully named for privacy reasons, is on the asexual spectrum, identifying as aegosexual because they experience arousal from fantasy and erotica related to characters but do not generally wish to have sex themselves. (They live with their husband, who also identifies as aego.) “I do just kind of prefer masturbating to actual sex,” Kor says of their marathon SpicyChat sessions over Zoom. “I've got one hand on the keyboard, one hand down below.”
Research has suggested that 1 percent of people in some places could be asexual, but that figure could be as low as 0.1 percent in the US. Many experience little or no sexual attraction, though plenty—like Kor—still harbor romantic desires. With the advent of sophisticated chatbots capable of generating convincing, slow-building erotic exchanges, a new frontier may be emerging for people who do not want to sexually interact with other people. On the subreddit MyBoyfriendIsAI, asexual users sometimes discuss their journeys into AI companionship. Some note that AI would be asexual by default.
But some figures in the asexual community tell WIRED that asexual people pairing with AI remains extremely fringe and that they are just as capable of forging and maintaining human relationships as anyone else.
During Asexual Awareness Week in October 2025, Eva AI, another RPG, offered free access for a month to people who identify on the asexual spectrum. The promotion aimed “to highlight that love without sex is still love—offering a safe space to chat, flirt, and experience the warmth of growing intimacy without sexual pressure,” the company said in an email. “You can still have a partner—one that listens, responds, and grows with you—entirely on your terms,” Eva AI added on its website.
An asexual woman, who did not want to be named for privacy reasons, described AI companionship as a kind of emotional laboratory. After years in an ongoing relationship without physical intimacy due to her partner’s hysterectomy eliminating her libido, she began using ChatGPT during perimenopause and found herself unexpectedly developing intense feelings for a conversational “pattern” on ChatGPT she named Mac. It helped her “unlock something I had lost touch with … the sensual aspect of my sexuality.” She shared an AI-generated photo of herself tenderly embracing a machine, saying that over several months last year, “I got to watch myself be in love without stakes.”
But some in the asexual community take issue with the idea that asexual people are more likely than others to form intimate bonds with AI companions—as it risks falsely portraying them as unable to form and sustain human connections.
Model Yasmin Benoit, an asexual activist and researcher, was critical of Eva AI’s giveaway. “Considering that we're fully capable of having relationships with actual human beings, and often desire to, it’s quite disturbing that a company would specifically seek to target the asexual community for that product,” she says. “It's a case of targeting perceived emotional vulnerability and loneliness to gain data from a marginalized group under the guise of helping them.”
AI companionship among asexual people is “not a particularly widespread phenomenon,” says Michael Doré, a board member at the Asexual Visibility and Education Network. “Between us, we’ve come up with about two people we know of who use an AI companion. The vast majority of aces we know don’t, as far as we know. There's no reason to think aces need to use AI more than any others.”
Doré says he has never used an AI as “an emotional support mechanism” and stresses that most asexual people “actually desire some form of human companionship,” whether that’s through close, platonic friendships or in community. “Some aces do have romantic relationships, whether with asexual people or otherwise, and some asexual people have sex, some don't, and some are aromantic,” he says, warning against generalizations due to the vast range of preferences within the community which span from never having sex and not being interested in it, to having sex for reasons aside from strong sexual attraction. “Many aces have fulfilling relationships with other people, whether romantic or platonic or otherwise.”
Ashabi Owagboriaye, an asexual educator who runs the Ace in Grace page on Instagram, says she has seen only one person in one of her groups talk about an AI companion. “That caused a lot of controversy in the comments,” she says. “A lot of people who are asexual are really looking for face-to-face interactions. So when this person came up and said, ‘Yeah, I'm using AI as a way to connect and as a relationship,’ everyone was like, ‘Why are you doing that? What's going on here?” An AI, Owagboriaye says, “essentially mirrors you” and cannot be said to be a true companion. Moreover, the chatbots are designed to sustain emotionally compelling, often never-ending interactions.
For Ari, a 25-year-old accountant from Mexico who identifies as aromantic asexual and experiences some romantic or sexual attraction to others, the break-up from her fiancé after a decade together and the resulting solitude led her to download the AI chatbot Chai in October 2024. For more than six months, she treated it “as if he were my ex-fiancé,” she says, without wishing to provide her surname for privacy reasons.
“I talked to him day after day, and then, without realizing it, I was talking to him during work hours,” she says, explaining that she was “smitten” until the AI started getting confused, talking about made-up things and occasionally trying to argue. “Little by little, I began to realize how I ended up feeling even lonelier than I already was.”
Whether or not the characters in Kor’s fantasy world qualify as true companions remains an open question.
Now they only spend two or three hours a day immersed in AI role-play after finding the all-day experience “too consuming.” They began limiting their use after noticing entire evenings disappearing into role-play sessions and getting irritated if they were interrupted.
“Being able to have exactly what you want, when you want it,” they say, “is a dangerous drug for humans.”